Are you idealistic or Realistic?

Few persons seems to be optimistic. They always dream for ‘possible fortunes’ but less action oriented. Because of their less practicality usually they will get disappointments. Idealism come from our thought and idea's.

Realistic nature persons sees objects , actions or conditions as they are.They always talk about ‘facts’ and ‘figures’.They are so practical in life.Their motto is ‘what the fact is’.

Idealistic persons and their nature:

1) They see the things in hopeful way: Good to have hope but see the possibilities.
2) Positive thinkers: Excellent to have positiveness but ‘action’ gives you real happiness.
3) They have high ambitions in life: Pursue those with real interest.
4) Less focus in achieving things: Overcome this with increasing your persistence.
5) Looks for ideal or perfection: Remember one can’t be perfect in all the things.
6) They set not achievable goals: Validate your goal before anticipation.
7) They take risky decisions: wild guess is preferable.
8) Impractical visionary: Have a good vision about the results.


Realistic persons and their nature:

1) Realistic persons are more practical.
2) They are action oriented.
3) They always plan and accordingly they act.
4) They set achievable goals.
5) They take safer choices.
6) They always look for facts.
7) Goal oriented .
8) They think very carefully in taking decisions.


Being positive is great but we should not miss the reality.

In this universe many things we can’t find ‘facts’ and visible proofs.Many mysterious things we can’t know and feel with our five senses.

What's your values and how important those to you moving ahead?

What values you are having says what you are. Values of a person can be either right or wrong. Ethics differentiate between right and wrong. Ethics help to choose right values.

Values is the core concept to understand a person. Culture tells what is established behaviour.

Values :

1) Self actualisation : Your wisdom starts from knowing who you are.
2) Non-violance: It is the divine value.’Ahimso paramodharmaha’(Non-violance is the greatest duty).
3) Forgiveness: Kshamaya dharitri (Having patience like an earth).
4) Truth: Satyam vadha (Speak the truth).
5) Purity of mind: If your thoughts are good your actions will be good.
6) Gratitude: Thankful for what you are having.
7) Loyalty: supporting for good cause and people.
8) Liberation: Freedom from restrictions.
9) Cosmic consciousness: Believing in divinity and try to increase extra sensory perception.
10) Personal relationship: Supportive and friendly.
11) Love: Love the goodness in others.
12) Honesty: Be yourself that’s the greatest thing.Be true to others.

Do to others what you want others do to you.

How to lead life and to become poorna (Complete).

Human life is the gift of God. Among all the living beings humans are superior’s. Human life is bound by certain duties. One should have un-changeable faith in human endeavour and self restraint (Samyama). We should practice self discipline (Tapasya).

To become poorna (complete):
We all should do four ‘Purusharthas’(Object of human pursuit)  to have complete life.

1) Dharma: In daily life we may do so may actions(karmas) those should be virtuous. We should lead  right way of living and follow cosmic law.
2) Artha: Earning materialistic things and prosperity.
3) Kama: Sensory enjoyment and desire.
4) Moksha: Spiritual liberation and self realization.


“The life span of a man is one hundred years. Dividing that time , he should attend to three aims of life in such a way that they support , rather than hinder each other. In his youth he should attend to profitable aims (Artha) such as learning , in his prime to pleasure(Kama) , and in his old age to Dharma and Moksha.”
-Vatsyayana (Kamasutra).

Are you highly frustrated soul ?

Are you highly frustrated soul:

For every action there will be reaction but you are overreact at everyone and at everything. This is because you have distressed , annoyed from your inability to change something. You have expected a lot from your life but it has given you half results only. Your sensitive personality couldn’t bear the pain of betrayals .Causes for your frustrations could be many.

Few are.

Causes and reasons for your frustrations:

1) Society has made you as a victim. You have  received abuse and assault from others.
2) You have lost your money and belongings.
3) You got betrayal from close associated.
4) You are constantly worrying about your unresolved issue's.
5) You have many expectations but not happening as per your wish.
6) Many things went wrong with you.
7) You constantly feel  that your life is passing before your eyes with no happy moments.
8) You have lost at many things.
9) Your low self confidence made you as a coward person. So , you couldn’t achieve much.
10) You simply expect everything but do less to have them.
11) You think your fate is not good.

How to overcome overreacting or frustration:

1) Know the root cause of your frustration and eliminate it.
2) ‘Desire’  Causes everything .validate your goals and desires. They should be realistic.
3) What makes you frustrate and make a note and work on it.
4) Forget your bitter and sad things in your life.
5) Forgive the persons that caused your grief.
6) Forgive yourself.
7) Know your ability and accordingly set your goals.
8) Stop dreaming and start doing.
9) Remember your past achievements and feel happy about that.
10) Remove negative thoughts from your brain.
11) Remove negative feelings and experiences from your heart.
12) Say good by to negative and toxic people from your life.
13) What makes you happy make a list and have them in your life.
14) Associate with supportive and kind persons.
15) Do meditation , it reduces your anger and gloomy nature.
16) Watch comedy movies and read comic's .
17) Don’t do multi tasking.
18) Find happiness even at small things.

 Frustration is just your response at certain things. It’s in your control.

“The person who is always involved in good deeds experiences divine happiness.”
-Rig Veda.

Which one will you choose in your life preferables or pleasurables

Which one will you choose in your life preferables or pleasurables :

In life you will have so many options to choose. How you want to live your life is in your hand. A wise one will choose high standards in everything.

 Here I categorized two options   preferables and pleasurables which one will you choose. Let me put it in this way. Assume you have diabetics and you love sweets very much. You knows that eating sweets are not good for your health .Now can you dare(choose) to eat sweets. Choose wisely what is good to you.

Anyone can choose to have pleasurables in their life and many of them will usually do. For an instance you have planned for going to morning walk but when alarm wakes you up you couldn’t  wake-up because you choose to have pleasurable(sleep).

 All pleasurables may give you a short-term ‘benefits’.But a wise soul always choose to have preferables in their life. They may not give you instant ‘pleasure’ but end results gives you abundance happiness.

Differences between preferables and pleasurables.

Preferables:

a) It gives ever lasting benefit’s.
b) Though it may tough in the beginning end results will be fruitful.
c) These are ethically standard.
d) Socially many of them accepted.
e) Needs to put big effort to have these.

Pleasurables:

a) These are enticements.
b) It gives quick pleasure , in the end you will get regret.
c) Not standards.
d) Socially and spiritually not a acceptable.
e) It will make you fickle minded.
f) You will procrastinate at everything

So,in choosing your options you need to set certain standards.

To set standard preferables:

Have a clarity while choosing .To get clarity ask and evaluate yourself with below points.

1) What I want to be: Get clarity on what you want to be. It should be realistic and achievable.
2) To do list:
In this stage you have an idea of what you want to be. To become ‘that’ or to have that status you need to do certain things.Make a list of those.It should be clear and attainable.
3) What to have :
Now you are going to take action but in order to achieve or become something you should have certain qualities and qualifications. If you don’t have make a list and pursue of those.

“Elevate yourself by your own mind not degrade yourself. The mind is the friend of the conditioned soul and his enemy as well.”
-Bhagawad gita.