How to enrich yourself and bring aesthetic sense into your life.

Enriching yourself and bring aesthetic sense into your life:
Usually our thoughts and actions depend on the source of our inspiration. Making our life as meaningful and filled with joy is possible and it’s an ‘art of living’.

To get enrich and bring aesthetic sense into your life:

1) Improve yourself: Concentrate on improving your imperfections.
2) Intimate with yourself: In this entire world no one knows about you better than yourself.So , spend the time with you and evaluate your strengths.
3) Take new challenges: Make an effort to try new things in your life. You will get self confidence if you try new tasks.
4) Acquire knowledge: learning is the life long process. Learn the new things in your life.
5) Personal attitude: Your attitude says what you are. Respond positively to everyone and at everything.
6) Work with ‘interest’: See what is achievable and make it as your goal. In achieving your goals and aims work with real interest.
7) Greatful for all of the things you have: Thankful for all what you have can make you happy.
8) Know your life purpose: Everyone will have unique quality. Know what’s best in you and make use of it.
9) Look for beauty around you: Find inspiration in all things that you see and apply that beauty to your own designed life.
10) Look for beauty in yourself and others: Every person will have virtues and their own values .Recognise   and appreciate it.
11) Reject what is ‘bad’ or unpleasant: ‘Negative’ has its own attractive power , So while ‘having’ your wants and desires choose wisely.
12) Appreciate all forms of ‘arts’: You may like music or dance or drama or literature it’s all forms of arts. Engage yourself to learn the arts or love to enjoy those.

 

Importance of setting energetic boundaries.

Two forces influence our day today life. One is positive energy and another one is negative energy. Positive energy is divine that can protect , save and support us.

You may contact many people in your life but all will not have good kind of attitudes. Their negative force can influence and affect your behaviour physically , emotionally and spiritually.

If you want to be safe and secure setting ‘energetic boundaries’ are essential. Energetic boundaries  are set to protect our psyche and spirit from ‘negativity’.

Importance of setting energetic boundaries:

1) Avoiding absorption of negative energy from the people is required if you want to have peace in your life.
2) Creating healthy boundaries with friends , associates and the other persons you meet casually is important. Because you can expose to their strong emotional forces.
3) Healthy boundaries allow you to balance in health.You can use energetic boundaries as a tool for staying protected in every moment of your life.
4) If you want to get and stay healthy.
5) You can have balanced detachment.
6) You can maintain your positive flow of energy with others without suffering with them.

How to create ‘energetic boundaries’:

When two persons come into contact with one another ,energy will get exchange consciously or unconsciously. This ‘exchange’ is invisible for normal people.If you have strong ‘aura’ you can sense and feel it.

1) Recite mantra ( Mantra japa):
If you have Mantra recite it always or you can chant nama sankeertana(Praise the Lord).
2) Do meditation (Dhyana):

Meditate on ‘The supreme power’ image. Pray for your well-being. It cleans your negative energy and brings divine energy into your life.
3) Art of detachment:

Give your love affection and care to all. But away from their negative physical , emotional and spiritual processes.You should be like ‘Lotus leaf’ which grows in water but is never moistened by water.
4) Never think “I am” the doer (Kartha):

When you are giving your ‘best’ to the others never think that you are doing it.Think as if you are a ‘facilitator’ to resolve their issues. If you think you are ‘fixing’ their issue you will become an  ‘egocentric’ person.

If it is regarding the spirituality admit that ‘supreme power’ is the source and you are just a ‘medium’.

5) Give it when someone asked you:

Helping someone who are   in need is good but know your limitations.

The best trait of wise and cultured persons is they will give their ‘advice’ if they have been asked. You should know when to speak and where to stop.

6) Stay cool and calm:

Never give strong ‘reaction’ to the people but give your response.

When interacting with others stay yourself cool. Pranayama(Breathing exercise) will help you to achieve this.


“One who is not envious but who is a kind friend to all living entities , who does not think himself a proprietor , who is free from false ego and equal both in happiness and distress , who is always satisfied and engaged in devotional service with determination and whose mind and intelligence are in agreement with ‘ME’ he is very dear to ‘ME’ “.
-Bhagavatgita.

 

Ask yourself ' how healthy am i '.

‘How healthy am I’. In this the word ‘I’ it includes your physical , psychological , emotional and spiritual. Life is to be lead happily and healthily. If you are not a ‘healthy’ how can you become complete person. How can you make others ‘conscious’ if you are in un-conscious status.

In my opinion health is the combination of physical , psychological , emotional and spiritual.

1) Physical: Whatever you want to achieve or experience the physical body is essential and it should be healthy.

“Shariramadyam khalu dharma sadhanam”[This body is surely the foremost instrument of doing (good)deeds].

According to ‘Ayurveda’ we should balance ‘Tridosha’(Vata , Pitta and Kapha) i.e Catabolic , Metabolic and Anabolic systems.

2) Mentally alert: It includes ‘awareness’ of yourself and the rest of the world. Always avoid negative thinking.To get positive thinking do meditation.

3) Intellectually sharp: Intellectuality associated with reason and thinking.
 If you have intelligence you can able to overcome your own problems. You can provide solutions to others issues also. To get Intellectuality  (a) Think (b) Read (c) Understand.

4) Emotionally balanced: Allow yourself to experience whatever comes up in your life.Never react to the situations but ‘respond’. Never overwhelmed to the results .Remember we can’t change the incidents but we can choose to ‘respond’  positively.

5) Spiritually elevated: Spiritually healthy people live with hope .Even in difficulties you will never lose confidence .You will think and act positively.

Spirituality includes your endeavours and HIS kind grace. To get initiation in spirituality ‘surrender’ yourself to the supreme power. HE will take care of you.

Are you idealistic or Realistic?

Few persons seems to be optimistic. They always dream for ‘possible fortunes’ but less action oriented. Because of their less practicality usually they will get disappointments. Idealism come from our thought and idea's.

Realistic nature persons sees objects , actions or conditions as they are.They always talk about ‘facts’ and ‘figures’.They are so practical in life.Their motto is ‘what the fact is’.

Idealistic persons and their nature:

1) They see the things in hopeful way: Good to have hope but see the possibilities.
2) Positive thinkers: Excellent to have positiveness but ‘action’ gives you real happiness.
3) They have high ambitions in life: Pursue those with real interest.
4) Less focus in achieving things: Overcome this with increasing your persistence.
5) Looks for ideal or perfection: Remember one can’t be perfect in all the things.
6) They set not achievable goals: Validate your goal before anticipation.
7) They take risky decisions: wild guess is preferable.
8) Impractical visionary: Have a good vision about the results.


Realistic persons and their nature:

1) Realistic persons are more practical.
2) They are action oriented.
3) They always plan and accordingly they act.
4) They set achievable goals.
5) They take safer choices.
6) They always look for facts.
7) Goal oriented .
8) They think very carefully in taking decisions.


Being positive is great but we should not miss the reality.

In this universe many things we can’t find ‘facts’ and visible proofs.Many mysterious things we can’t know and feel with our five senses.

What's your values and how important those to you moving ahead?

What values you are having says what you are. Values of a person can be either right or wrong. Ethics differentiate between right and wrong. Ethics help to choose right values.

Values is the core concept to understand a person. Culture tells what is established behaviour.

Values :

1) Self actualisation : Your wisdom starts from knowing who you are.
2) Non-violance: It is the divine value.’Ahimso paramodharmaha’(Non-violance is the greatest duty).
3) Forgiveness: Kshamaya dharitri (Having patience like an earth).
4) Truth: Satyam vadha (Speak the truth).
5) Purity of mind: If your thoughts are good your actions will be good.
6) Gratitude: Thankful for what you are having.
7) Loyalty: supporting for good cause and people.
8) Liberation: Freedom from restrictions.
9) Cosmic consciousness: Believing in divinity and try to increase extra sensory perception.
10) Personal relationship: Supportive and friendly.
11) Love: Love the goodness in others.
12) Honesty: Be yourself that’s the greatest thing.Be true to others.

Do to others what you want others do to you.

How to lead life and to become poorna (Complete).

Human life is the gift of God. Among all the living beings humans are superior’s. Human life is bound by certain duties. One should have un-changeable faith in human endeavour and self restraint (Samyama). We should practice self discipline (Tapasya).

To become poorna (complete):
We all should do four ‘Purusharthas’(Object of human pursuit)  to have complete life.

1) Dharma: In daily life we may do so may actions(karmas) those should be virtuous. We should lead  right way of living and follow cosmic law.
2) Artha: Earning materialistic things and prosperity.
3) Kama: Sensory enjoyment and desire.
4) Moksha: Spiritual liberation and self realization.


“The life span of a man is one hundred years. Dividing that time , he should attend to three aims of life in such a way that they support , rather than hinder each other. In his youth he should attend to profitable aims (Artha) such as learning , in his prime to pleasure(Kama) , and in his old age to Dharma and Moksha.”
-Vatsyayana (Kamasutra).

Are you highly frustrated soul ?

Are you highly frustrated soul:

For every action there will be reaction but you are overreact at everyone and at everything. This is because you have distressed , annoyed from your inability to change something. You have expected a lot from your life but it has given you half results only. Your sensitive personality couldn’t bear the pain of betrayals .Causes for your frustrations could be many.

Few are.

Causes and reasons for your frustrations:

1) Society has made you as a victim. You have  received abuse and assault from others.
2) You have lost your money and belongings.
3) You got betrayal from close associated.
4) You are constantly worrying about your unresolved issue's.
5) You have many expectations but not happening as per your wish.
6) Many things went wrong with you.
7) You constantly feel  that your life is passing before your eyes with no happy moments.
8) You have lost at many things.
9) Your low self confidence made you as a coward person. So , you couldn’t achieve much.
10) You simply expect everything but do less to have them.
11) You think your fate is not good.

How to overcome overreacting or frustration:

1) Know the root cause of your frustration and eliminate it.
2) ‘Desire’  Causes everything .validate your goals and desires. They should be realistic.
3) What makes you frustrate and make a note and work on it.
4) Forget your bitter and sad things in your life.
5) Forgive the persons that caused your grief.
6) Forgive yourself.
7) Know your ability and accordingly set your goals.
8) Stop dreaming and start doing.
9) Remember your past achievements and feel happy about that.
10) Remove negative thoughts from your brain.
11) Remove negative feelings and experiences from your heart.
12) Say good by to negative and toxic people from your life.
13) What makes you happy make a list and have them in your life.
14) Associate with supportive and kind persons.
15) Do meditation , it reduces your anger and gloomy nature.
16) Watch comedy movies and read comic's .
17) Don’t do multi tasking.
18) Find happiness even at small things.

 Frustration is just your response at certain things. It’s in your control.

“The person who is always involved in good deeds experiences divine happiness.”
-Rig Veda.

Which one will you choose in your life preferables or pleasurables

Which one will you choose in your life preferables or pleasurables :

In life you will have so many options to choose. How you want to live your life is in your hand. A wise one will choose high standards in everything.

 Here I categorized two options   preferables and pleasurables which one will you choose. Let me put it in this way. Assume you have diabetics and you love sweets very much. You knows that eating sweets are not good for your health .Now can you dare(choose) to eat sweets. Choose wisely what is good to you.

Anyone can choose to have pleasurables in their life and many of them will usually do. For an instance you have planned for going to morning walk but when alarm wakes you up you couldn’t  wake-up because you choose to have pleasurable(sleep).

 All pleasurables may give you a short-term ‘benefits’.But a wise soul always choose to have preferables in their life. They may not give you instant ‘pleasure’ but end results gives you abundance happiness.

Differences between preferables and pleasurables.

Preferables:

a) It gives ever lasting benefit’s.
b) Though it may tough in the beginning end results will be fruitful.
c) These are ethically standard.
d) Socially many of them accepted.
e) Needs to put big effort to have these.

Pleasurables:

a) These are enticements.
b) It gives quick pleasure , in the end you will get regret.
c) Not standards.
d) Socially and spiritually not a acceptable.
e) It will make you fickle minded.
f) You will procrastinate at everything

So,in choosing your options you need to set certain standards.

To set standard preferables:

Have a clarity while choosing .To get clarity ask and evaluate yourself with below points.

1) What I want to be: Get clarity on what you want to be. It should be realistic and achievable.
2) To do list:
In this stage you have an idea of what you want to be. To become ‘that’ or to have that status you need to do certain things.Make a list of those.It should be clear and attainable.
3) What to have :
Now you are going to take action but in order to achieve or become something you should have certain qualities and qualifications. If you don’t have make a list and pursue of those.

“Elevate yourself by your own mind not degrade yourself. The mind is the friend of the conditioned soul and his enemy as well.”
-Bhagawad gita.

Are you living in the past or living for future?

Are you living in the past or living for future:

If you think you belongs to the former one then you must be kind soul and there is a vulnerability in your heart. You attached to everything in your life. You are not a pessimist nor a self pity person but you are highly sensitive personality. You always wants to do things nicely and perfectly but fate has shown you things you never wanted to have. Regret has become your constant status. You have disappointed over  many things few were beyond your control. Sometimes things not happened as per your wish.

Oh alas , all the above attributes and circumstances made you to live in the past. My dear reader , I know how sorrowful it is to live in the past because I have been there.

Regret is good because:

a) It teaches how the things not to do and how to do.
b) It will become your experience and helps you to become emotionally strong.
c) You will learn to forgive yourself.

Regret is bad because:

a) Constantly blaming yourself.
b) You welcome sadness in  your life.
c) You will have unwanted stress.
d) You will show angry at everything .
e) It destroys your ‘hope’.
f) It gives you feeling of lost and defeated.

Thus how you took is matter.

How to stop living in the past:

Living in the past is your way of thinking or feeling sad about things happened. Try and implement below insights to stop living in the past.

1) Write it down the situation where you felt bad and analyse where you did the wrong.
2) Recognise ‘past’ is over that you can’t change and nothing to do with that. There is a purpose for everything that has happened to you.
3) Learn from your mistakes.
4) Apply new strategy and approaches while doing the things.
5) Be empathetic.
6) Have gratitude in your life.
7) Forgive and forget the people and situations that caused you grief.
8) Forgive yourself.
9) Begin your day with positive thought.
10) Spend with happy and optimistic people. Their positive vibes make you feel happy.
11) Change your attitude into positive at every situation.
12) What makes you feel sad avoid it.
13) Use affirmations in every moment of your life.
14) Identify where do you feel comfortable and happy , live accordingly.
15) Set small tasks and achieve it.Appreciate yourself for those.
16) Say it to yourself “Gatam gataha”(Past is past).

Are you living for future:

If you are living for future possibilities means you are an optimist. You always look for an opportunity .You never lose hope.

Advantages of living for future:

1) You will become an optimist.
2) You will see an opportunity in every task of your life.
3) You will have ray of hope.
4) You will have happiness at all moments in your life.
5) You can support and help who are in distress.
6) You will have enthusiasm in reaching your goals.
7) You can reverse the negativity in your life.


Dear reader ,planning and anticipating for future is great but should not live in the dreamy lands. Validate your anticipations.

Life is alive in the present and the future.

May you all get much happy and good health in your life.

Cleansing of ones own soul.

Cleansing of ones own soul:

When life is going happily , successfully and healthily we will never think of ‘atonement’.

To fulfil our desires and wants we might have used so many ‘tools’. All we wanted was ‘end result’. In the process of acquiring those goals we might have done so many ‘wrong’ things. If we done something negative we will get negative karma in our lives. It can affect in this birth or some other it’s inevitable. Those ‘wrong’  things might have done intentionally or un-intentionally but you have to have its effect. That’s the law of karma.

Sins are committed in three ways.

A) With our mind (Manasika): Think about doing bad deeds and done through mind.

B) With our words(Vachika): Hurting others with harsh words , telling lies.

C) With our body (Kayika): Physical violence


When you want to purify your soul the advantages include:

a) Atonement can help you to become mature , you will learn from your own behaviour.
b) If you start amending your mistakes you can forgive yourself and others.
c) You will have peaceful life.
d) You can learn ‘responsible’ for something.
e) You can feel free from sins.

Ways to purifying or cleansing your soul:

1) Repentance:  Among all cleansing ways repentance or sincere regret is the best and the greatest.Holeheartedly feel sorry about your ‘wrong’ things it will relieve you from your guilt.

2) Acceptance of your mistakes: If you do something wrong knowingly or un-knowingly accept it and take responsibility.

3) Yogic breath (Pranayama): Practice pranayama in the early morning hours.

4) Austerity (Tapas): Connect your soul with supreme power. For doing this you no need to go to the forest. Create a peaceful of mind and do it wherever you are.

5) Sacrifice into fire (Homa): If you do direct ‘Homa’ for your well being is good. Alternative is lit a lamp (Deepa) in your home itself and pray to almighty.

6) Vedic mantra (Japa): If you got the mantra from your teacher (Guru) recite it.If you don’t have the mantra praise the Lord (Nama sankeertana).

7) Give charity or gifts (Dana) : Give it to whom ? Charity to the needy and gift (Dana) to the qualified soul.

While giving never think how great you are and how ‘big’ you are offering. Give it with kind and humble nature. This should not tell everyone as an advertisement.

If you don’t have something to give it others do service or give gifts (Dana) with your mind (Manasika).

8) Do fasting (Upavasa) : Fasting means not only without eating but to be ‘nearer with Him’.

9) Go on pilgrimage (Teertha yatra): Visit holy and spiritual places.

My dear reader , while observing the above do it sincerely .You are responsible to your conscience only.

“ O  Varuna , whatever the offence may be which we as men commit against the heavenly host , when through our want of thought we violate your laws , punish us not , O God for that iniquity.”
-Rig Veda.

 

How do i know 'what i want'.

How do I know ‘what I want’

We all live with full of wants and desires.Our want itself a motivational factor. Some times we get confusion and want to have some insights to know ‘what we want’.
Yourself can find this. Let’s see how.
Un-happiness is common in human life. When we get this..
a) when we have failures.
b) When we get disappointments.
c) When we get frustrations.

If you are clearly remember your failures and disappointments means still you are carrying ‘those’ in your heart. You want to have those in your life as accomplishments.
You will come to know what you want from below points.

1) From your failures: List out your major failures that are still burning in your heart.

Something you have failured means reasons should be..
a) You did a mistake.
b) You had an un-certainty .
c) Lack of knowledge.
d) Due to your negligence.

This time you will know how not to do these mistakes.

2) From your disappointments: List out your disappointments. When we didn’t get complete results we will get disappointment. This time get all the potentialities to achieve complete success.

From the above point you will distinctly know what you want. I named it as ‘historical method’.

3) From your frustrations: when we anticipate something and if it didn’t happen we get frustration.

Before anticipating something you should ‘validate’ your wants or desires. If it’s not reliable or achievable better to drop it before it brings sadness in your peaceful life.

4) From ‘what makes you happy’ or ‘from your passion’: Everyone has their own way to have happiness in their life. What’s your passion. Go and have them in your life.
5)  From your strengths: What’s your strengths list it and use it in achieving your goals or wants.
6) From your views on ‘life’: What’s your personal opinion or views on life. Even if it is not accepted by many no problem it’s your life.
7) From your life purpose: First know it and have a blessed life.

Are you being lonely or being alone ?

Are you being lonely or being alone

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There is big difference between being lonely and being alone.Let’s see.
Being lonely or feeling lonely:
Even if you are in crowd you feel isolated and abandoned. It’s very unhappy state of mind.Unfortunately many of them are experiencing this.
Among many reasons few of them includes :
1) When your expectations are not met.
2) You think you are not lucky.
3) You always says to yourself with grief ‘why me’ .
4) You think no one ‘likes’ you.
5) You are constantly looking for love and affection.
6) You are blaming and doing self criticism.

Like many..

With these reasons and situations you feel isolated with the hole world.You always feel restless.You through yourself into self pity.

To deal with this try and implement below followings:

1) Recognise feeling lonely is just a state of mind.
2) Say to yourself “I am there for myself”.
3) Feel happy about your existence in this world.
4) Love yourself.
5) Spend your time with ‘you’ and listen what is the ‘cause’ for your being loneliness.
6) Like and listen  the music.
7) Appreciate yourself for your achievements.
8) Love the nature beauty.
9) Make the friendship with book's.
10) Practice ‘self parenting’.
11) If you are spiritual do prayers.

Being alone:

Enjoying solitude is an art.All wisdom people will have this gifted quality.

How to make best use of your ‘alone’ status:

1) To refresh your mind and body.
2) To think for ‘find’ a way to your problem.
3) To know who you are (wisdom starts from here)
4) It helps to improve your patience and understanding ability.
5) To have the ways to control your life issues.
6) To find your happiness.
7) To find your life purpose.
8) To get empowerment.

My dear reader , whatever your state of mind happiness should be your final destination.May you all have a happy life.

Advantages of comparing with others

Advantages of comparing with others:

Yes , comparing with others is an advantage. It’s a human nature to compare with others.From our childhood onwards comparing with others has become our tendency.Our father and mother were inseparable in flourish this nature.

In our childhood our parents compared with our friends how ‘good’ and decent they are.
So , unconsciously we have developed negative in comparing with others.All will say comparing is not good.Can we  turn this with positive outlook.

Comparison is two types.Downward comparison and upward comparison.
Now let’s see how ‘advantage’ in comparing with others:
Downward comparison and advantages:
Comparing with others who are less skilled or less fortune than you.
1) It helps you to have ‘gratitude’ in your life. (Be thankful to God what he has given to you)
2) You will get inner peace.  (Compare with those who didn’t have peace even though they are millionaires)
3) Health is wealth.Compare with those who frequently hospitalized. Health is equivalent to wealth.
4) You are having freedom. (Compare with those who didn’t have this)
5) You are having family attachment.Compare with those poor orphans.
6) Un necessary competence won’t be there.
7) You won’t get insecurity feeling.
8) You will learn how to love yourself.
9) To get self-esteem.
10) To feel better.


And many more that you can compare to get gratitude.

Upward comparison and advantages:

We compare with others who we feel better than us.

When we are observing ‘the better’ one’s means we are looking for positive in our own lives.

1) It helps to focus on our abilities to improve in reaching goals.
2) It will be great motivation factor .
3) Keep it as a benchmark to achieve your wants.
4) To convert your wish into high intensive desire.
5) To raise your hope.
6) To increase your confidence level.
7) To believe in yourself.
8) To recognise where you are lacking and to know ways to improve those.
9) To get inspiration.
10) To achieve more targets in our life.
11) To get disciplined life.
12) To realise your own life purpose.

All in all compare with others not to get disappointment or not to get envy.But to improve your own not enough of something.Feel happy what you have.

Ways to have blessed life for sensitive people.

Among all living being human life is great.Intellectuality makes human different from other creatures.In human life their personality traits and characteristics defined what a person is.We as humans not only living with intellectually but having lots of emotions and feelings.

A sensitive person is tender and soft inside of their heart.They have a tendency to easily offended or upset by something.They will be easily depressed and think they have no place in this materialistic world.Constantly wants love and care from someone.

They are kind and empathetic persons.They have good intuition , they can sense and listen your untold words.They are good listeners and can give best advice to others.Having empathetic nature they can feel the pain of others and can give best healing energy.They are  creative thinkers and have artistic nature.Having their own sorrows and unresolved issues they support others emotional feelings.

They like and love all but the moment they get inattention or devalue or unfaithfulness they walk away from those persons.

Being sensitive and to have blesse life:
1) You have imaginative skill notice it and make use of it.
2) Be with kind , supportive and friendly people.
3) Let it go your past emotional traumas and frustrations.
4) Avoid self criticism.
5) Don’t expect validations from others .You are kind and smart acknowledge it.
6) Study creative arts and holistic counselling and practice it.
7) Open yourself to receive love and affection.
8) Spend your time with pets and kiddies.
9) Read self help books and spiritual books.Take the courses related to this.
10) Plant trees and spend in your garden.Have an emotional attachment with  plants.
11) Love yourself.Nurture yourself and greatful for what you have.
12) Do yoga (not the one with physical)
13) Do pranayama (breathing exercise )
14) Connect with like-minded people.
15) Be self employed (make use of your gifted qualities)
16) Take counselling or Life coaching as your career.
17) You will do best in healing or alternative medicine career.
18) Select your life partner .They should be kind and supportive to you. (‘Select’ ..is this in our control or it should happen naturally.Let me know your opinion)

You are creative , an intuitive and an empath.Oh , my dear kind soul please take care your tender heart .You are here for a purpose.

How to get good karma in your life

How to get good karma in your life:

Our desire becomes the action.Every action there will be reaction or result.Can we  anticipate result , we ought not. AS per Bhagawad gita ‘You have right only doing your work not for its results ‘.
While reaching our goals repeated efforts makes us perfect. We have control over our thoughts not in results. As there is a saying ‘Budhi karmanusarini’ it reads actions of a person are governered by his conscience (viveka) or discriminating power. As per the quote even our actions are control by our previous ‘karma’.But the question is what to do to have good thought or an action.
To get positive vibes:
1) Be empathetic (Sense and feel the pain of others and give empathy to them).
2) Be faithful (without self cheating).
3) Be kind to people and help them in any small way you can.
4) Love your family and friends.
5) Share your ‘knowledge’ to all.
6) Give your wisdom to the ‘qualified’.
7) Offer your time and resources to charities.
8) See positive in everything .
9) Go on pilgrimages.
10) Read spiritual books (Sastras).
11) Offer your money for good cause.
12) Sponsor your resources to holy places.
13) Pray for others .
14) Be with the people who are kind and virtuous(Satsanga).
My dear reader , these are the few but find and choose your own way to serve others.It will erases your negative and brings good ‘karma’.

Depression - what we can do

Depression or Deep Sadness
Life is like a heaven when we feel happiness in everything. It’s all about how we feel and ‘see’ the things.
Depression is the medical terminology related to psychological illness.For the sufferer it’s the most pathetic emotional situation.
Reasons could be many.But common cause is ‘living in the past’ or not relieved or unresolved emotional trauma.
If we keep on remembering ‘those’ bitter experience our present happiness will disappear.If we are not relieving those frustrations from our heart it will accumulate. It will release in a deferent form.That leads us un-natural behaviour.A chemical imballance will occur in our brain.
What we can do to cope up with  this :
1) Forget and Forgive.
2) Be with your near and dear ones.Speak with them about your ‘issue’.They give best support and help.
3) Avoid the people and situations causing you feel bad.
4) Write on paper your feelings and thoughts.
5) Do meditation.
6) Visit new places and stay there for a few days.
7) Make a new hobby.
8) Learn new skill or art.
9) Learn new language.
10) Listen  to music (Avoid sad type..)
11) Attend family meetings and local gatherings.
12) Engage in social service activities.
13) Spend in beautiful and peaceful places (Gardens , riversides).
14) Live for tomorrow’s great possibility.
15) Hope is the best medicine.
16) Have healthy food.
17) Have 8 hrs of sleep.
18) Consult psychiatrist.

Holistic Approach of decision making.

 Holistic decision making:
Change is the continuous process in life .At each stage of our life we need to take decisions. Results will depend upon how wisely we take decisions.
In Sanskrit there is saying ‘Neera-Ksheera-Viveka’
Good things are precious and happen rarely.They available mixed with some impurities like lotus in the mud.The wise ones separate good and bad things.They accept  only the good things.Like a ‘Swan’ separating milk from water.
Set clear , consistent and accountable decisions.
Be like a Swan while taking decisions.

Psychological strength is great

Make your Life alive

Balancing on Life

We may have so many doubts , confusions and difficulties.To get rid of all these we will use all resources .If we stuck at any stage we feel un happy.Few un resolved issues gives us frustrations.

Lacking of something or having of too much brings unhappy.As there is a saying 'Ati Sarvatra varjayet'.It reads One should refrain from 'too much' of anything.

Have these qualities in Life this makes you 'balanced'(happier) person.

1) Firmness :In achieving goals it will help.
2) Forgiveness :Lets go of negative emotions.
3) Self-control:Ballencing of everything.
4) To be honest:For atleast to ourseves.
5) Purity:Goodness in thought and behaviour.
6) Control over the senses:Difficult but can achieve with practice.
7) Intellect:About what we are doing.
8) Knowledge:It's continuous process.
9)Truth:The quality of being truth.
10) Absence of anger:It gives you peace.

Power of sub-conscious mind

Life always influenced on our social , cultural , economical and personal beliefs.We always try to ballance all these.we are on the way to reach our goals and wants.Now and then we come across difficulties , un expected sorrows and failures.We have to face it with confidence and lots of hope.Self help is best help.

We can get possitive thinking from our subconscious mind.If we give it to possitive commands it will help us to get solutions to our problems.

Subconscious mind is so powerful it can make you successful.But it needs to have possitive feelings.

These are the few simple commands that we should give it to our subcinscious mind oftenly.
1) I can do this
2) I will succeed
3) I am a Lucky person
4) I am becoming much healthy
5) I deserve for this
6)This issue will turn to my favour
7) I am so happy now

We should fill with this kind of possitive commands it will work like 'Mantras'.
 There is a saying in Sanskrit 'Yad bhavam Tad bhavathi'.It reads 'As you think so you become'

Envy and how to deal with this

Envy is an emotion of a person when they lack another's possessions.
Envy can burn themselves in their own flame.

Steps to deal envy in others:
1) Discover the best in them and let them know.
2) Ask them to stop comparing with 'others'.
3) Convey them how to be 'Thankful' for what they already having.
4) Explain them greatness of feeling happy in somebody's fortune.
5) Tell them to have a taste of joy in 'giving' to others.

Unfortunately few 'Great Souls'  also will have envy.May God bless them.

In 'Taittiriya Upanishad' told about mutual helping and not to envy on others.
The stanzas says:
OM , May we all be ptotected
May we all be nourished
May we work together with great energy
May our intelect be sharpened and let there be no animosity amongst us.
OM , Peace , Peace , Peace.

Law of Karma

This is called Karma siddhanta.
Whatever we give to the universe is what comes back to us.
All we want is Happiness , Peace , and Love. So , lets give it to the universe for sure we will get it back.

To be a Guru (Coach , Leader)

You should be:

Stita Prajna (To be established in wisdom)
-If a failure comes they will never disappointed or depressed.
If anyone hurts them they will never feel.
-If they get success they will never be proud.
They will say it's because of 'Team work'.

Samadarshi (Un biased)
They will see all equally.

A real Leader will have blend of these '3' quality's.

IQ-Intellectual Quotient :

Good to have it.

It will fetch bread and butter to live.

EQ-Emotional Quotient :

A sensible , sensitive and empathetic persons will have it.

It helps how to lead life happily.

SQ-Spiritual Quotient :

A blessed soul will have it.

It leads to have bliss and 'Salvation'.

To heal your Heart

Desire

Stay cool , be happy.

Reasons you need a Life Coach

To hire a Life Coach these are the few resons.
1) You are intelligent but stuck in an issue.Expecting to know how to 'solve' it.
2) You are strong but at the moment you need  'motivation' in achieving your desired goal.
3) You are sensitive , every thing you look through from your heart. 'Depresion' is your un avoidable friend.
4) You are good at 'decision making' but  ' these days ' you couldn't .
5) You have good 'imagination' skills.But you have some 'phobias' and 'anxitys'.
6) You are very kind at heart but fate has given you sorrows and frustrations.You want some one to 'listen' your feelings.
7) You are good at giving but you are expecting 'support' and 'empathy'.
8) In your life so many changes has happened but now you are expecting how to 'ballance' that new phase.
9) Naturally you are skilled person but you want to know what's your 'strength'.
10) You are born with 'desires' you are trying to accomplish it but you are expecting some one 'encourages' you.
11) For you Life means to get enlightenment so , you are expecting 'spiritual guidance '.
12) For just to share your 'feelings'.

Reasons could be many.All in all you want someone to 'Listen' you and give something to fix your issue.

A fresh start

Best compliment

Essential Characteristics of an excellent Life Coach

1) A great listener
2) Natural teacher
3) Having empathy
4) Deep understanding of human nature
5) Having Intution
6) Ability to see both side of an issue
7) Charishmatic leadership

These are major qualitys that a Life Coach should have.

Life Coach

A life coach is a person to help people achieve their goals in life.He helps people plan goals and gives structural steps in achieving them.

Life coach offers advice and guidance to lead successful life.

Life coach will have deep understanding of human nature.